https://lanie.work/tags/love/ Recent content in Love on Lanie: Faith, Tech, and Advocacy Hugo en-us Wed, 23 Sep 2026 00:00:00 +0000 https://lanie.work/advocacy/shed-hate-the-word-hero/ Wed, 23 Sep 2026 00:00:00 +0000 https://lanie.work/advocacy/shed-hate-the-word-hero/ <p>My mom has been my caregiver for thirty-four years. She still is, even now that I live in a nursing home and someone else handles the daily care that burned her out.</p> <p>I&rsquo;m thirty-four. I&rsquo;m blind, autistic, and chronically ill. I have over thirty medical conditions, and the combination of them means I need care I can&rsquo;t give myself. My mom has been the person who gave it for most of my life. She drove me to doctor appointments and school meetings when I was a kid, often with my three younger sisters in the car because my dad wouldn&rsquo;t watch them. She stayed up with me at night when I was sick. She came and took care of me when she was in pain herself, when she was tired, when she should have had someone caring for her.</p>